For Parents

GROWING THE GAME TOGETHER PARENT BOOK (PDF)

Additional Resources

I Love to Watch You Play - A Growing the Game Together Blog by John Kessel about watching his daughter play. "As my last child winds her way through that last year of high school, somehow juggling five AP classes, two varsity sports with captains practices and road trips, peer counseling, friendships that have endured 3/4th her life on this remarkable planet….I keep thinking on how much I am going to miss watching her play."

The Agony of the Parent - As I watch parents and coaches agonizing over defeat, and in the rapture of victory, I think two key things are missing.

Choosing a Summer Volleyball Camp - A camp appraisal check list, and things you should know in selecting the best summer camp fit for your son or daughter.

What Families Need to Know about the Olympics/Paralympics - The primer for family members who have an Olympian/Paralympian headed to the games.

As a Parent, I will:

  • remain in the spectator areas during all games.
  • not advise the coach on how to coach, who to put in the game and/or who to take out of the game.
  • respect the integrity of the officials and not advise them how to call the match.
  • model sportsmanship for my child by treating all coaches, officials, tournament directors and players of either team with courtesy and respect.
  • encourage hard work and honest effort that will lead to improved performance and participation.
  • emphasize the cooperative nature of the sport.
  • not coach my child during the game.
  • encourage athletes to participate in volleyball drug, tobacco and alcohol free.
  • attend all volleyball events alcohol and drug free
  • cheer for my child's team.
  • encourage my child to participate for enjoyment as well as competition. 
  • applaud good and fair play during matches.
  • be in control of my emotions.
  • learn the rules of the game to help me better understand what is happening on the court.
  • Understand that physical or verbal intimidation of any individual is unacceptable behavior 
  • be supportive of all attempts to remove verbal or physical abuse from organized volleyball activities, including language.
  • Understand that conduct that is inappropriate as determined by comparison to normally accepted behavior is unacceptable.
  • protect the ability to continue using the facility by following all the rules of the facility, such as NO FOOD, DRINK OR COOLERS IN THE GYM, smoking in designated areas only, throwing all trash in an appropriate receptacle, etc. 
  • protect athletes from sanctions and/or suspension by producing accurate documentation
  • honor financial commitments.
With thanks to the Arizona USAV RVA office.

Bill of Rights for Parents when joining a club:
I have the right to:

  • be treated with dignity and respect
  • share in the leadership and decision making of your athlete
  • approach the leadership of the club organization with which you are involved
  • cheer for your child in a positive manner
  • verify your coaches/team qualifications
  • ask questions and receive answers
  • ensure that the adults involved with your child are positive role models
  • talk to parents, other players and/or other clubs
  • have your child tryout without discrimination
  • request a clear disclosure of financial obligations
  • have a written clubs statement of philosophy
  • be informed about your child's role on the team
  • have your child tryout out for more than one club and be allowed time to make a decision as specified by the tryout policy
  • the knowledge of the time, travel and financial commitment of your involvement with the club/team.
  • knowledge of how many spots are available before tryouts begin
  • remove your child from an event/practice if you feel it is unsafe for your child to continue without repercussions
  • know that all club affiliated staff are members of the NCVA and background checked.
  • ask your club director if they adhere to all State and Federal business requirements and laws
P is for praising, which your child needs often.
A is for accepting, so hard edges will soften.
R is for recognizing your child's many talents.
E is for encouraging a good healthy balance.
N is for nurturing, to help your child grow.
T is for teaching, then letting go.
S is for smiling at the growth and the glow.

Courtesy of the Northern California Regional Volleyball Association