Mastering the Art of Choosing Our Reason Why

By Chris Palmquist | Jan. 22, 2018, 6:52 p.m. (ET)

Keeping our goals relevant and motivating after life changes

finish line

In the Beginning …

We all remember the heady experience of crossing our first triathlon finish line. If you are like me, you probably used borrowed or barely adequate equipment, made nutrition and/or pacing mistakes and suffered chafing in brand-new places. But that finish line had meaning. We had dreamed up the goal (to finish a triathlon), put aside some fears and conquered a new challenge. And wow, that was satisfying.

Sooner or later, most of us wanted to experience another finish line. This time our reason why was more advanced but still very clear: to improve upon our first performance, to execute a better race, to be faster. These new goals governed training through our next season and became our reason to be resilient and determined through the hardest parts of each race. We continued to dream up performance goals and see improvement through those years. Again, that was extremely satisfying.

Adulting

Inevitably, our lives become more complex as we move through adulthood. Partners, marriage, careers, responsibilities, child-raising and home-ownership can all add to the wonderful complexity of a meaningful life. But as other parts of our life become fuller, the amount of energy, time and money that we can devote toward triathlon can decline. Eventually, age will catch up with even the fittest master athletes, resulting in gradually slowing performances. At this point, a triathlete’s continued participation in the sport depends on his/her ability to find meaningful goals and a new reason why to guide training and future racing. Here are some strategies for finding meaningful goals that mature alongside you through a lifetime of triathlon.

1. Find Role Model Athletes
First, step outside the box that contains your own training and racing experiences and reflect on the athletes who you admire the most. My role model athletes have all overcome significant challenges to become or remain triathletes (illness, injury, aging, addiction, weight loss, depression, etc.). They appreciate every starting line as the privilege that it always is. They battle through every race with all that they can give. They train with focus and determination but never without gratitude. They exist as examples to me and others on how to find meaning in a sport both before and long after your new PRs have all been found.

2. Assess and Adapt Then Identify Meaningful Challenges
My great privilege to work for physically impaired and visually impaired veterans and triathletes has shown me the power of adding to one’s list of abilities. Whether they have lost their sight, a limb or the ability to use part of their body, when a person first becomes impaired, their list of abilities seems to get much shorter. Through paratriathlon, almost everyone can train for and race a triathlon. This quickly adds to each person’s list of abilities — adding meaning to each day. Paratriathletes assess their current situation, adapt, problem-solve around challenges, find meaningful goals and work toward them with resilience and determination. If you feel like your triathlon list of abilities is shortening, there is always a way to set new goals and find new abilities. Conquer a new type of triathlon, focus on better technique, master nutrition and wellness, start a new training group, recover from injury, improve speed work, help a hesitant beginner, tackle strength training, volunteer at a race, work with a youth triathlon team, work with paratriathletes, etc. You can find an infinite number of new reasons to stay in the sport with continued growth. Aspire to be a role model triathlete.

3. Set Longevity Goals
Some sport challenges reward persistence and longevity. Many races reward participation over many years or decades. Think about that athlete who has competed at a race over two or three decades — an admirable achievement for anyone. Some years, just getting to the starting line is a massive accomplishment worth celebrating. To do that consistently over many years is amazing.

4. Prioritize Joy
My experience as a youth and junior coach has also helped me to remember what really matters in sport. Young athletes want to make progress and want to work hard, but ultimately, they want to enjoy the experience with other athletes who they consider to be friends. As adults, sometimes we become too focused on the training and racing goals but forget that our involvement in triathlon should also be a method to add meaning, joy and social connection with friends. At the end of our lives, our race PRs might warrant some reminiscing, but the strongest friendships and the most joyful memories will be more important.

5. Keep Your List Long
It is a sign of athletic maturity to remain in the game even when it is difficult or impossible to improve one’s finish time. The rewards for redefining your goals and updating the reason why you race are worthy. Don’t let the list of things that you do get prematurely shortened. Assess where you are with your life situation and fitness, adapt, set some new goals and get going. It is going to be a fantastic year!

Chris Palmquist

Chris Palmquist (USA Triathlon Level III, Youth/Junior, Paratriathlon Certified Coach) is a Head Coach at Team MPI, a National Team Coach for USA Paratriathlon and a Head Coach for MMTT Youth Development Team. She has competed as an endurance athlete for 35 years in many different sports but never gets tired of racing or coaching triathlon. She can be found at chris@teammpi.com.

The views expressed in this article are the opinion of the author and not necessarily the practices of USA Triathlon. Before starting any new diet or exercise program, you should check with your physician and/or coach.